Make Love Not War

Good Evening,

Have you ever been in a car with your significant other? That is probably a definate, YES!

There has to be a statistic somewhere that states more marriages end due to riding in cars together than any other reason.

Today tested my patience greatly. My husband was in a terrible mood, didn't want to drive, didn't want me to drive and we were stuck in traffic for three hours. Have you ever been there? Where everything you say is wrong. I tried to just be silent but if I breathed a certain way he was in attack mode.

I dont want anyone to think I don't love my husband because I am blessed to have him in my life but today was an education on UNCONDITIONAL LOVE!

After I calmed down and realized that he was not upset with me and he just needed to be in his own space and work through his issues, I put a few things into perspective.

First, who am I to get angry at my husband for being in a bad mood. If God can show me mercy in my worst moments I have to learn to step back and forgive not only my husband but others when they are less than favorable towards me.

Ephesians 2:4-5
“But because of his great love for us, God, who is rich in mercy, made us alive with Christ even when we were dead in transgressions—it is by grace you have been saved.”

Second, It isn't about ME all the time. My husband was having a bad day and he wasn't feeling very good. All I could think of was how his actions were affecting me. God teaches us compassion, love and kindness. How is it that my heart didn't first go to that thought? Easy answer because we dont think with our hearts we think with our flesh.

The end result was after a lot screaming, then silence, some more screaming and then finally silence. I closed my eyes and prayed to please bring peace in our truck. It was then God showed me that my way of thinking was all wrong. After a re-routing of my attitude I started to finish the journey with love and understanding in my heart for my husband. I closed my eyes took a nap and allowed him to work through his demons.

Lamentations 3:22 – 25Because of the LORD’s great love we are not consumed, for his compassions never fail. They are new every morning; great is your faithfulness. I say to myself, “The LORD is my portion; therefore I will wait for him.” The LORD is good to those whose hope is in him, to the one who seeks him. ”

So next time you are riding in cars with boys just let them drive and take a good nap.

Walk by Grace,
Breathing Slowly

P.S.

Take one day, one problem and one breath at a time and life with unravel a lot slower and will be easier to work through and understand.